Trust Your Stardust: The Secret to Moving Forward and Living Authentically
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In this episode of The Empowered & Embodied Show, hosts:
Kim Romain and Louise Neil dive into the journey of self-trust, healing, and transformation with Becky Vollmer, creator of You Are Not Stuck.
Together, they unpack the difference between stagnation and stuckness, explore the power of reflection, and remind us that sometimes the only permission we need to move forward is our own.
This episode is a call to action. It’s about breaking free from the stories that keep us small, questioning the rules we’ve been handed, and trusting that we already have everything we need to step into our most authentic selves. Listen in and learn how to reclaim your power, trust your inner wisdom (or as Becky calls it, your “Stardust”), and create a life that aligns with your evolved values.
Key Takeaways from This Episode
You Are Not Stuck: What you’re feeling is fear, uncertainty, or tough choices—not an actual roadblock.
Trust Your Inner Wisdom: Your deeper Self—your Stardust—already knows the way. Trust it.
Question the Rules: Many of the expectations we follow aren’t ours. Question them. Rewrite them if they no longer fit.
Healing Starts with Acceptance: Stop covering wounds with band-aids. Give yourself permission to feel and heal.
Align with Your Evolved Values: As you grow, your values will change. Let your life evolve with them.
The Myth of Stuckness and How to Move Forward
We’ve all felt stuck at some point—whether in our careers, relationships, or personal growth. But here’s the truth: stuckness is an illusion. What you’re feeling is likely fear, uncertainty, or a lack of clarity—not actual limitation.
“You are not stuck. You might feel stuck, but feeling is different than being stuck.” – Becky Vollmer
Becky reminds us that stuckness is just a sign that something needs to shift. It’s not a dead end; it’s a signal to reflect and realign with what truly matters.
Stagnation vs. Stuckness: Stagnation is a pause, a chance to regroup—not a permanent state.
Clarity Begins with Reflection: Asking the right questions can help you move from feeling stuck to gaining the insight you need to take action.
Trust Your Stardust: Embracing Your Inner Wisdom
The mic drop moment of the episode is Becky’s reminder to trust not just your everyday capabilities, but your deeper Self—the part of you that’s limitless, free, and unbound by fear.
“Trust your Stardust. There’s a part of you that already knows the way—it’s waiting for the rest of you to catch up.” – Becky Vollmer
When we stop second-guessing ourselves and trust that deeper wisdom, we can break free from external expectations and move forward with confidence.
Question the Rules: Are They Even Yours?
So many of the “rules” we live by aren’t ours. They come from society, family, and outdated values that no longer serve us. Kim, Louise, and Becky challenge listeners to question everything: Wherever you are in life, question the rules. It doesn’t mean you have to break them—but make sure they’re serving YOU, not someone else’s expectations.
Whose rules are you following?
Do they align with your current values and desires?
If not, how can you rewrite them to fit the life you truly want?
Permission to Heal and Feel
Healing starts with acknowledging what’s broken—not covering it up. So often, we slap band-aids on our wounds to avoid dealing with them. But true growth comes when we face them head-on. Becky emphasizes that we must stop numbing and start allowing space for all parts of ourselves to be seen and felt.
💥 “You don’t need to know the final destination to take the first step. Trust your ability to move forward, even if you don’t know where it’s leading.”
Aligning with Evolved Values
Your values evolve as you grow—and your life should reflect those changes. What mattered 10 years ago may not matter now. Recognizing this and aligning your life with your current values is crucial for building a life that feels authentic and fulfilling.
Practical Tips:
Reflect on your past and current values—where have they shifted?
Realign your priorities to reflect your most current values.
Let go of external validation and follow your internal compass.
Learn More About Becky Vollmer
🌟 Website: YouAreNotStuck.com
🌟 LinkedIn: Becky Vollmer
🌟 Instagram: @YouAreNotStuck
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